In our classes we frequently discuss other topics of interest to our parents. Over the next few weeks we’ve invited in various guest bloggers and friends to let us know more about some of these topics and to give you a point of reference.
Tamara Donn is an EFT practitioner specialising in mothering issues; we are delighted to welcome her along this week to tell us more about Emotional Freedom Technique and how it can help babies, children and parents too!
As we sat on by the edge of the swimming pool, my daughter, age 6, was shivering and scared of her imminent swimming lesson. I was feeling slightly helpless and struggling to find yet another helpful suggestion for her. I’d exhausted statements such as “I can see you are scared. It’s going to be OK – you know the teacher and she will go at your pace”, “You’ll feel better when you are in the water”, “its only half an hour”, “you’ll be able to swim when we go on holiday” or the even less helpful “I’ve paid for it so you have to do it”!!!
Then I remembered EFT (Emotional Healing Techniques)/ Tapping. So I took her hand and gently started tapping on her. Within a few minutes she took a deep sigh and said “I’m ready now mummy!” What would I do without such a powerful tool. That was 6 years ago. I loved the technique so much, I trained in EFT and now support other mothers and pregnant women with issues relating to parenting issues.
Here is a short and incomplete list of some of the things EFT could help with in the realm of parenting:
- Trying to conceive
- Pregnancy fears, morning sickness
- During labour for pain and anxiety
- Crying, sleeping and feeding issues
- Birth trauma
- Post-natal depression
- Anxiety about school
- And pretty much anything else you can think of!!!
So what is EFT?
EFT is a powerful self-healing tool that is safe and easy to learn – even for little ones – with often fast results. It is like acupuncture without needles for emotions. You can use it on yourself, your children/ family or go to a practitioner for more complex issues. EFT is like acupuncture for the mind, body and spirit without using needles but tapping on the acupoints instead while saying various phrases. The theory behind EFT is that all negative emotions are disruption in the body’s energy system tapping the acupoints smoothes the energy to flow freely again. Imagine a water hosepipe that is twisted. The water will not be able to flow through but untwisting the hosepipe (which is what EFT does) allows water to flow again.
How do I do EFT?
Using the example I gave above, here is what I said to my daughter at the swimming pool.
Before you try it, familiarise yourself with the points in the diagram. Don’t worry about getting it too precise. EFT is very forgiving. Try it and see!
Repeat step 1 three times
Tap on the side of the hand on the Karate Chop point (KC) and repeat the following:
“Even though you are cold and scared of swimming, you are OK”
Repeat step 2 twice.
Tap on each of the points (about 7 times) in sequence saying the following at each point
Tap on point 1 (Inside eyebrow) and say “cold”
Tap on point 2 (Outside of eye socket) and say “scared”
Tap on point 3 (Under eye) and say “don’t want to go swimming”
Tap on point 4 (Under nose) and say “cold”
Tap on point 5 (Chin) and say “scared”
Tap on point 6 (Collarbone – use a fist but be gentle) and say “don’t want to go swimming”
Tap on point 7 (Under arm on bra line for women or parallel to nipple) and say “cold”
Tap on point 8 (Top of head) and say “scared”
Here are some other example:
For an exhausted parent:
Step 1: “Even though I’m so exhausted, my baby won’t sleep and I can’t sleep, I deeply and completely accept myself”
Step 2: “exhausted”, “can’t cope”, “can’t sleep”, “baby can’t sleep”,…
For a crying baby (tapping very very gently):
Step 1: “Even though you are crying, maybe you are hurting, maybe you are scared, you are safe here with me”
Step 2: “crying”, “sad”, “tears”, “hurting”, “scared”, “you are safe”,…
For a child who is scared of saying goodbye ate nursery:
Step 1: “Even though you don’t want me to leave, you wish we could be together forever, you are OK”
Step 2: “scared”, “want me to stay”, “don’t want to say bye bye”, “want to go home”,…
To download a free EFT manual so you can get started today, go here: http://www.eftforwomen.co.uk/free-eft-manual.html
For more details go you http://www.eftforwomen.co.uk/ or call 01923 260050. One-to-one sessions available in person in Kings Langley, or by phone or skype. Workshops in Kings Langley and London.